In the Toolbox: Staying Out of Our Own Way
March 18, 2011Today’s Creative Business Toolbox topic was inspired by a flash of what felt like divine intervention, an afternoon this week when I sat down to work on a piece of writing that had been in my head for weeks, and proceeded to hammer out a 4800 word story that I’m absolutely crazy about.
Sometimes that happens.
Already my memory of writing this story has taken on legendary proportions ~ when I imagine myself at my computer typing, I see a wild-eyed woman sitting beneath a golden ray of light, acting as a channel for forces far beyond her physical self. I know I’m making that sound very dramatic and movie-magic-ish, but I’m not making it up ~ that is exactly how it feels.
I sent the piece to a friend, a writer, someone I know for certain will always give it to me straight, and when she called me to say, “It’s AMAZING,” my response was, “I KNOW, isn’t it?” Sounds like I think I’m All That, right? But I don’t ~ in situations such as these, in a weird way, I don’t feel like I can take full credit. All I did was turn on a faucet when I sat down at my computer, and after that it just poured out of me. In a weird way, I’m not entirely sure what I had to do with that sudden, miraculous outpouring.
But I don’t want to be all pie in the sky about it, so I’ll propose this: that I’ve been working on my writing for a while now, and I create finished stories multiple times a month for various blogs, books, interviews, and publications. And the story I wrote this week is a story that I’ve been walking around with across the span of a decade (a decade!) This week just happened to the week the spark of inspiration showed up, and, because I was willing to sit down and stay with it, magic happened. So while I do, deep in my gut, feel like this was one of those moments of divine inspiration, I also know that this inspiration would have meant nothing if I had not been willing to meet it halfway. All the work I’ve been doing as a writer got me to this point of my journey; if I hadn’t been doing the work all along, I wouldn’t have made it this far along the path where this astounding gift was waiting for me.
What does this have to do with the idea of Staying Out of Our Own Way? It’s simple: I’ve done a few edits on this piece, and will probably do a few more, but right now my work is to let the piece be. Aside from a word here or a phrase there, I know that if I start over-analyzing this piece and decide I have to work harder to make it “perfect” I will flub it all up. I’m going to do another round of edits this morning, be done with it, and start submitting it next week. Next week!
Here’s the other part of today’s topic at play ~ this piece is searingly honest, frighteningly honest. This is a piece of writing that is likely going to piss people off, inspire others to judge me, and expose some of my weirdest neurosis, feelings, memories, and experiences. If it gets published, I will truly feel like I’m walking around naked. But I also know that because of its honesty it is going to be deeply appreciated. I know women (yes, women) are going to get what I’m talking about. I know deep in my gut these are important experiences to share.
But let me tell you ~ it is terrifying to think of the whole world having access to this story. Terrifying.
Which is another reason I’m going to start submitting it sooner rather than later. I don’t want to chicken out.
Our creative work has a life of its own, and it is our job as artists, writers, and creative entrepreneurs to honor its journey. And this means we have to be mindful of all the ways we might hinder or prevent that from happening. I have to stay out of my own way with this piece of writing, which means I have to avoid over-editing and start submitting it immediately. As for my fears about this? Well they’re just going to have to crawl into the back seat, because right here, right now, they don’t get to have an opinion about anything.
“If we are to understand the human condition, and if we are to accept ourselves in all the complexity, self-doubt, extravagance of feeling, guilt, joy, the slow freeing of the self to its full capacity for action and creation, both as human being and as artist, we have to know all we can about each other, and we have to be willing to go naked.” ~May Sarton





Thanks for this info Christine! I can totally relate and have been in this weird place with a story I wrote. I have good memories like your description in the 2 paragraphs after, “Sometimes that happens.” But on the other hand, I always feel like I need to keep editing it. This has been going on for a year and a half! Eeek! So…thanks. It is such a special balance to figure out individually for each piece.
Also…I’m following your advice and selling cards independently before trying licensing under my “brand” name! THANKS!
Jane
This has, indeed, been some kind of magical week.
without getting to woo-woo (or with getting woo-woo), I really do believe that if we allow ourselves to stay open and receptive, and if we do our work (i.e. practice, and work, and play and practice) that there are moments where something comes through us, and we for a time are a conduit for … I’m not sure, the universe? collective consciousness? god? maybe there are times when we are just more open to ourselves, to our own heart, to our own consciousness… I can say tho that those moments are quite simply sublime, and unforgettable… go you!!! you are all that!
Now my interested is definitely piqued. Please let us know when and where the story will be published. Can’t wait to read it!
divine timing, my fav x0
You inspire me! Thank you!
oh boy i know that feeling…of putting yourself out there and feeling vulnerable. but i’m excited to read it…sounds really interesting!!
“…inspire others to judge me” had me in stitches! so often I write a blog post that is so me, so real and so truth-ridden I take it down and DELETE it forever because I live in fear that it will inspire just that.
WHO CARES~!
I’m so proud of you, for sitting with the magic, for allowing those words, for not trying to “fix” them, and for grabbing the bull by the horns and submitting it sooner rather than later.
YOU are amazing.
Thank you for this post, Christine. You continue to inspire me and nudge me along on my own creative journey. You encourage all of us to follow our truth. To be brave. To risk. xoxo
All I can say is thank you- this message came at a time when I was wondering what the HECK I am doing, and if I am “wasting time” because my experiments and ideas just aren’t working out. Now I know to stay with them a while longer.
Oh boy, I can’t tell you how much I want to read that story now!
Getting out of my own way is often the most important work I do in a day, whether I’m writing, teaching yoga or showing up for my sweetheart.
Thanks for the wise reminder. x
Christine,
i am cheering you on! thank you for this post … so much juicy/lived wisdom here.
and yes, i look forward to reading your published piece + getting what you are talking about.
love, love,
meghan
smiling & celebrating with you at your allowing the words to flow and birth this story into form.
{so awesome}
big love, Shannon
I can’t wait to read it…and congrats on the birth!!!
Congrats on your accomplishments and fabulous blog post full of inspiration