It is stopping what I am doing when my husband asks for my help. It is thanking him for calling the plumber and dealing with the just-discovered leak. It is choosing to stay home on a weekend he goes away instead of heading somewhere else myself, simply because I know it will give him peace of mind. It is declaring our partnership, and the home and family we've created around it, as the most precious thing, and setting the intention every morning to make my choices, whatever they may be, in alignment with that declaration.
It is making eye contact everywhere I go. It is asking the person in front of me how they are. It is surreptitiously, anonymously buying breakfast for someone who is clearly doing his best, and just as clearly struggling.
It is stopping by our neighbor's house unannounced, just to say hello. It is seeing another neighbor's dog out loose on our morning walk, letting him tag along with us, and then making sure he got back home safe and sound. It is calling a friend in the throes of grief and saying, "I'm coming to see you." It is heading over to a family member's house at 11:00pm and staying all night. Because he needed us. It is flowers. It is a card. It is a handwritten letter saying thank you even though nearly thirty years have passed since we last had contact and the family we knew fell apart.
It is so many little things. It is always the little things.
Being the change I wish to see in the world starts right here, under my own roof. If I don't start here - if I'm not able or willing to align my values (what I claim to care most about) and choices (the things I actually do) within the walls of my own home, then how will I do it elsewhere? How can I make any effort toward healing the world if I haven't made every effort to heal my family? What good is it to fight for whatever causes I believe in if I don't understand the importance of showing up for the people right in front of me?
There is much work to be done beyond the walls of my home, of course, but my home is where it must start. This is where it begins.